We all have our breaking point. We have that one thing that tips us over the edge. The bucket is full and there is nowhere for the excess water to go but spill over the top. And we blow! Recognise this scenario?
Easter holidays can be great. But they can also be a time when our children push us to this breaking point.
So we need to plan and put things in place. Otherwise…….oh boy! Kapow!
So here are my three tips for a happy Easter holiday:
1. EDUCATE THE FAMILY IF YOU HAVE A FAMILY GATHERING
As you may know, I am on a mission to spread the word about ADHD. Your child has a neurological condition and their brains are wired differently. ADHD is not an excuse but it is a reason why your child behaves as they do. They find sitting for long periods difficult, misunderstand social cues, may make inappropriate comments, is impulsive and can be overwhelmed by sensory experiences. So sitting in a hot, crowded dining room or restaurant, with strange smells and too much noise and movement can be too much for your child.
The consequence is that they will need to move frequently, take breaks from the room, bring their own things to occupy themselves, not take part, leave the table or even leave early. All these things are okay.
It is what your child needs.
If the expectation is realistic then all will be good. If the expectation is that your child will remain at the table, take part and be focussed then your child is heading for a fall. They will get cross, annoyed, frustrated and the lovely family gathering will quickly head into a decline.
So ahead of the gathering, send an email to everyone. Explain what your child needs and what is going to happen. Stand by these statements and don’t bend to pressure.
2. MAKE A PLAN
Your child needs structure and routine. Without it they will be bored, irritable and in a state of unrest. So print out an April calendar from Google or in Publisher. Write down the key dates things are happening. Plan outings and snuggle days.
It is also a good idea to plan each day. This doesn’t have to be fancy shmancy. Just make a list or draw a table and write out exactly what is happening that day and in what order. Use words or pictures. This way your child knows what to expect and they’ll be no surprises.
3. HAVE FUN
This is an opportunity to have time without the pressure of school (unless you have exams and that is for another blog…).
So use this time to have fun. Forget housework, paperwork and chores. Look up things to do on Pinterest. There are tons of things that don’t cost money but you’re creating memories. Which are priceless.
It is during this special time that you are building a great relationship with your child and they are more likely to tell you if something is bothering them. Use this time to decide together potentially difficult things, like how long they should be spending on their XBox. All decisions should be collaborative and not a unilateral decision by a parent. Your child will be more likely to stick to rules and agreements if they are part of the decision process.
I hope those tips will help.
I wish you a lovely Easter break.
Let me know how you get on.
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